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GUEST POST: Texting Advice for the Big Brother Contestants By Reality Chick

The main plot lines in the Big Brother house this series have revolved around relationship, macking and what type of people the housemates like.

Some interesting exchanges have centred on the issue text messaging. Most people have done something dumb via text. For the record mine did NOT involve photos.

Lucky for me Rachel Smith has written a guest post giving some advice to the Big Brother contestants on this very issue.

Rachel Smith is an advice columnist, who runs relationships blog and RC’s sister site Warning Letter To My Ex is a compulsive reading looking over letters people wish they had written to their exes.

Over to Rachel:

As a relationships writer and advice columnist, fly-on-the-wall TV always offers food for thought. Take Big Brother. I sometimes wish I could press a button and boom my opinions in to the housemates. Kind of like Big Brother, but a female version. Big Sister, maybe?

Anyway, that urge hit me during one of last week’s episodes when the housemates were talking texting. It got me thinking about the good, the bad and the seriously messed up when it comes to textiquette.

While stuff like this is of course heavily subjective, Zoe’s habit of responding five times to text messages before guys text back just screams Stalkerville to me. Or desperation. (Furthermore, it’s not surprising that she lacks any subtlety at all in letting people know she has the hots for Michael – but that’s a topic for a whole other column.)

On the flip side, I found it interesting that Michael has a strategy of waiting three hours before texting someone back (unless it’s a pre-arranged thing or a friend, or what-have-you). I don’t disagree with this, actually. Playing it cool when dating and delaying your text response for an hour or two is a subtle way of showing the other person that you have a life. Zoe, I hope you’re reading.

So, in lieu of booming my advice right into the Big Brother house, here are my eight do’s and don’ts when it comes to texting and dating – for the BB contestants (and anyone else who wants to brush up on their textiquette).

Do… text back within a day or so. Not too eager, but just right. Leave it longer than that, and you’re either a) playing games or b) sending ‘not interested’ vibes.

Don’t… text someone multiple times before they respond. Major fail. Twice at the most, then leave the ball in their court.

Do … feel free to ignore daters who text mainly late at night. Unless you like being a booty call.

Don’t… drink and text, because the next day, there’s a good chance you’ll be dealing with the fallout as well as a hangover.

Do… spell it out. The odd acronym is fine but too many LOLs, BRBs or WTFs will make your recipient feel like he or she are dating a teenager. KWIM?

 Don’t … ‘accidentally’ send a text meant for someone else. It’s a really lame way of getting attention, and everyone sees through it.

Do … hide your face when sexting. If things go sour your bits could very easily end up on the Internet.

Don’t… let someone get away with just texting you and only texting you. It’s bad form and super lazy to never pick up the phone.

*** What do you think? Do you have any hard and fast texting and dating rules you stick by?

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1 Mahlia { 10.17.12 at 12:26 pm }

Here at RR Michael is generally not liked by the commenters because it is believed he thinks he is better than the others.
Is it possible Michael’s 3 hour rule could be a sign that this is true because me likes to make the person wait in anticipation for him?

2 Rachel @ Reality Chick { 10.17.12 at 1:07 pm }

Absolutely … the whole treat ’em mean, keep ’em keen approach. Because we all know waiting three hours or longer for a response to a text message when we’re dating someone new can totally mess with your head!

3 Sioux Denim { 10.18.12 at 12:42 am }

Loved this read – thanks for posting RR.

BTW what is KWIM?

4 Rachel @ Reality Chick { 10.18.12 at 9:07 am }

Know What I Mean :-)

5 Carole { 10.18.12 at 9:50 am }

Well I have a very basic mobile phone and only use it to make the occasional phone call. I prefer to use the land line, I know I’m a dinosaur when it comes to phones. I don’t even know how to text, so these rules are totally beyond me. Plus I’ve been single for years so all this is new to me. But they are very interesting, so thanks for the heads up, they may come in handy some day when I meet someone.

6 brain dead dave { 10.18.12 at 10:56 am }

I’ve never owned a mobile phone. Enjoyed the read,however.

7 A.P { 10.18.12 at 11:32 am }

I do a lot of texting back and forth but only with my kids to keep in touch.
A mobile phone is handy to have in an emergency but mine is only basic too, I don’t need it to be a computer as well.
I find kids these days can be rude on their phones constantly in front of friends, they give more attention to them than their friends.