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Ricki-Lee Coulter Puts Up A Selfie And Whinges When She Gets Negative Comments

Screen shot 2014-03-23 at 8.57.53 PMIf you are a celebrity and you are going to put selfies up of yourself on instagram inviting comment please don’t whine when someone makes a negative comment.

Ricki-Lee Coulter a couple of days ago put the above selfie up on her instagram account and was offended when not all the comments were positive and called these commenters bullies.

Sure people online can be nasty but a lot of the negative comments were related to how thin she looked. Ricki-Lee needs to realise if you are going to put a photo of yourself on instagram you are also placing yourself up for judgement.

The Courier Mail reports:

QUEENSLAND singer Ricki-Lee Coulter has taken aim at online bullies after a harmless selfie sparked a flood of abuse about her body.

After posting a slim-looking selfie on Instagram on Friday, Ricki-Lee was bombarded with 195 comments, many of them criticising her for looking too thin.

A prolific social media user, Ricki-Lee is never shy in posing for pictures on her Instagram account, which boasts 78,000 followers.

However, her latest picture sparked a heated row between critics and supporters of her new slimline frame, ironically on a National Action Against Bullying Day.

“I’m sorry but you look like ET,” wrote Melly1973.

“You’re in the wrong frame of mind if you think you look healthy,” wrote Possie84.

Others said she looked like a robot or alien.

The former Young Diva, now based in Sydney, fired back to defend her appearance.

“These comments are ridiculous,” she wrote.

“I’m fit and I’m healthy and most importantly I am happy.

“If you don’t like the way somebody looks that’s fine but keep your negative opinions to yourself.”

She went further, using National Action Against Bullying Day to put online trolls in their place.

“I don’t care what people think of me but I do care that people use social media to bully and spread negativity,” she said.

“This kind of body-bullying needs to stop.

This is mildly ironic considering Ricki-Lee (who I am a fan of) has participated in a plethora of articles about her body weight so people are going to have an opinion about it. You can’t court the media on this issue and then expect people not to have an opinion.

But by the looks of these comments made by some of her followers she has not been bullied but insulted and offended.  A big difference. It certainly did not stop her from putting a photo of herself in a bikini a day later.

Sam De Brito in the SMH wrote an article today which has some salient point to this topic and he was talking more about legislation in this area.  He writes:

If individuals are moved to take their odious beliefs to the level of intimidation, discrimination or violence, we have laws to deal with them. Until then, we are simply dealing with remarks, pronouncements, comments, utterances and statements.

People who claim to know what is acceptable for the rest of us to read, watch and say are, by extension, telling us what to think.

How many people would you trust with that power?

If you want to be able to tell people things they don’t want to hear, we have to accept people will say things we also don’t want to hear. It’s not pretty but, as soon as you start making exceptions to freedom of speech, it’s not a freedom any more.

Celebrities use social media to promote themselves and their products but it also put them in close contact with their fans and this can be a positive and negative. They need to realise that not everyone is going to fawn over them but that does not make them bullies.

 

37 comments

1 Andrea { 03.23.14 at 10:09 pm }

She does look quite thin and pasty. I think she looked better on Australian Idol, more natural.

2 Techhater { 03.23.14 at 10:32 pm }

It’s a worry that she’s so thin. My concern for her is this the result of an eating disorder or drug abuse. I do hope those around her give her the help she needs.

Does anyone have the link to the next day pic of her in a bikini?

3 Techhater { 03.23.14 at 10:41 pm }

Ok I just saw her bikini pic and it didn’t appear to be as bad as the selfie.

4 ExEssex { 03.23.14 at 10:51 pm }

The pic actually looks photo shopped to me

5 Techhater { 03.23.14 at 10:56 pm }

Maybe she’s looking into one of those weird circus mirrors.

6 daisy { 03.23.14 at 11:34 pm }

That is very concerning. She looks like she is killing herself. RL; stop dieting NOW.

7 ziii { 03.23.14 at 11:52 pm }

I think the same. Not everyone is going to like you. Some of the s
makeup free selfies are taken in good light and with the person staring down the camera to make their eyes look good.

8 Georgie { 03.24.14 at 12:16 am }
9 Sioux Denim { 03.24.14 at 12:17 am }

Wow, she really looks unhealthy….reckon some photoshopping?

10 Techhater { 03.24.14 at 12:20 am }

Georgie “You’re terrible Muriel” 😛

11 Georgie { 03.24.14 at 12:26 am }

I know TH, it was just an instant gram of madness. 👿

12 Techhater { 03.24.14 at 12:27 am }

LOL O:-)

13 daisy { 03.24.14 at 1:02 am }

Georgie, you got it. Let’s hope she realizes looking like Gollom isn’t a good thing.
It’s a case of if a little weight loss is good, a lot must be better. Her family must be in pain seeing her like this.

14 Culinary Boner { 03.24.14 at 9:32 am }

The artist formerly known as the ravishing, voluptuous and attractive Ricki-Lee *sighs*

15 daisy { 03.24.14 at 9:37 am }

Imagine if Samantha Armatige got skinny. She looks nice as she is.

16 Neeno - Sew Me Love { 03.24.14 at 9:46 am }

People probably think RL looks ill cos she’s wearing no make up ahahhahaha. I get that sometimes!

17 Culinary Boner { 03.24.14 at 9:54 am }
18 daisy { 03.24.14 at 10:19 am }

Is she sucking in her cheeks to accentuate her cheekbones, or does she really have anorexia?
And CB, yeah. Extra terrestrial.

I just saw Samantha and she looks like she has lost a lot of weight too. Interesting (and this is from someone who likes a slim, fit figure), she doesn’t shine anymore. But that might be because she is poorly partnered. She needs a funny bad boy like Lazza or Andrew.

19 layla { 03.24.14 at 10:36 am }

This woman annoys me. She’s so irrelevant that this is the only thing she can do to stay somewhat relevant. I haven’t seen her in real life to judge her weight so I’ll make no comment on that. It’s easy to pose in certain positions to make yourself appear thinner than you are & there’s always our “trusty” mate photoshop available when we need him.

20 cam2 { 03.24.14 at 11:29 am }

thats a really interesting point made by sam de brito. thanks for posting RR.

i don’t understand this culture of ‘selfies’. im not a granny either, im in early twenties, but i can’t imagine anything more ridiculous than putting up photos ONLY of myself online. i don’t get it. It is one thing to be happy with your appearance, but its totally another to post pictures, invite comments and attention. its pure vanity and narcissism right? i just find it very hard to understand when and how this quality became acceptable and the norm.

note* i’m only referring to instagram accounts of people who post ONLY of themselves, not just regular photo sharing.

21 Gidgitvonlarue { 03.24.14 at 11:38 am }

I am SO over this rubbish with these celebrities. Sorry the minute you are famous, put stuff up about yourself on the internet etc – you are open for ALL comments – not just the ‘gee you are awesome’ ones. Saying someone looks unhealthy or thin is not being a bully. It’s a social comment she just didn’t like hearing.
And end of the day – if you do NOT want to read these things – step away from the media and go do something else. If you don’t read it – you cannot be offended by it!

22 Gidgitvonlarue { 03.24.14 at 11:39 am }

…oh and all this selfie stuff is SO fucking self indulgent it’s getting beyond being ‘cute’ or ‘amusing’. Especially when it’s just one person doing it.

23 layla { 03.24.14 at 11:49 am }

I’d rather be told I’m too skinny than be called fat. Most women would agree on that so I’m suprised by her reaction to this.

I do a selfie now & then, mostly when I’ve bought a new outfit & I want to show it off. I can’t though with girls who have their assets on display in every single picture – they crave attention.I agree it’s complete vanity. Guys give it to them though so they’ll continue to do it. I know I’m attractive – the “can I get you a drink?” offers I have at the pub when I go out is enough to tell me so. I don’t need to have my boobs on display 24/7 as well.

24 daisy { 03.24.14 at 11:58 am }

The whole selfy thing seems a lot look-a-moi to me.
But then again I have a few photo albums of my gfs, bfs etc when we could still take a good photo.
The novelty of posing for photos wears off when you’re a granny and you start taking photos of your grandkids, garden and maybe seagulls.

25 Reality Raver { 03.24.14 at 12:06 pm }

What about the selfies that are not selfies but photos taken by other people and put up?
I think she is sucking her cheeks in.

26 daisy { 03.24.14 at 12:14 pm }

Agreed RR, you can tell. And she has used lighting to accentuate her bones. She obviously has gone too skinny but she has also exagerated it in this shot.

27 Kylie { 03.24.14 at 12:18 pm }

Respectfully I disagree. In my opinion, it’s her Instagram account – her slice of “online real estate” if you will – and how she chooses to run that account, and moderate the comments it receives, is entirely her choice. Some celebs (Ricky Gervais, Piers Morgan) love stirring up their followers and inciting combative feedback. Good for them. Presumably, RLC is not like those guys. She uses IG to share her life with her FANS as you suggested, not judgmental detractors. She’s well within her right to set the tone of her account any way she sees fit. And to remind (some of) her followers that social media is not compulsory…if they don’t like it, don’t look.
With so many blurred lines when it comes to defining “bullying” and when it has occurred, perhaps we’re all getting a little lost in the semantics? Either way, I think anyone beating the drum for less negativity online should be applauded.

28 daisy { 03.24.14 at 12:37 pm }

I’m saying she, and others like her, need to take better care of herself, wether that be in eating healthily, or in making better choices of photos she puts out there.
Also if she has fans, I wouldn’t want any of them emulating her promotion of drastic weight loss. And that is clearly what this photo does. This is not, ‘get RL’, but rather ‘get help’ RL.
I’d be far more concerned about her health than any negative criticism regarding this photo. And if anyone thinks it looks good, that’s a worry.
I do not support the promotion of anorexia.

29 Culinary Boner { 03.24.14 at 1:19 pm }

Kylie@27, I’m beating the drum for less selfies and more sense on-line but do wish I could stop being a hypocrite about it…
http://memecrunch.com/image/52eb85f01605fb7aa2000065.png?w=400

Thpugh clearly this selfie-obsessed young squirrel needs help – http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/selfie-addict-danny-bowman-spent-10-hours-a-day-trying-to-take-the-perfect-photo/story-fnixwvgh-1226863190109

30 daisy { 03.24.14 at 1:28 pm }

Oh CB, you really had me going there for a while. About a year ago I really thought you were RJ and I couldn’t believe I had been engaging in dirty talk with the famous King of porn. It was a few weeks before I worked out that you were pulling my leg.

Just remember when you are kidding that I am very gullible. At least you are the King of mad links.

As for the selfie guy, have people always been so weird and we just didn’t know about it?

31 Georgietake2 { 03.24.14 at 3:26 pm }

I think people have always had weird thoughts. Now they have forums to indulge their weirdness, and what might have been a passing thought becomes a “reality”

32 ExEssex { 03.25.14 at 1:14 am }

I wonder if she photo shopped a ‘selfie’, to garner some publicity? Does she have a single or tv show coming out soon??

33 ExEssex { 03.25.14 at 1:15 am }

I don’t think she looks bad, I just think she looks photo shopped

34 Amy { 03.25.14 at 8:20 pm }

I get really annoyed with all the comments about RL and “omg too skinny” “omg anorexia” “omg she looked better before”. She was overweight before. Not massively, but she was. IIRC, she got a personal trainer boyfriend and got into fitness/healthy eating. She looks very thin in that photo but in full length shots you can see she’s got a healthy, fit body. She’s clearly happy with her lifestyle change and her body, so good for her.

35 Poppy offtime { 09.30.14 at 9:18 pm }

Ricky lee is a dork …. Just a bogan who made it ….. Whatever she will never be a model on a catwalk no matter how hard she tries. End of her story.

36 May smith { 09.30.14 at 9:23 pm }

Ricky darling you will never be Kate moss…. You will always be big body wise never big famously….. I’m sorry you try hard Shame about your face also….. Very ordinary darling. Good try tho buxom

37 John smit { 09.30.14 at 9:28 pm }

Ricky lee…. Boring boring boring…. Plain jane is much more sexier than this below average girl….. How did she even find a husband …. Boring boring boring…. Does anyone over 10 years of age by her album boring boring boring!!!!!….. Zzzzzzz